Spiritual band-aids vs. sustainable change

Taffy Brodesser-Akner’s recent New York Times article on Gwyneth Paltrow and Goop ends with Brodesser-Akner being stuck on a bus, desperately having to pee. This incident, fortunately resolved without catastrophe, nonetheless leaves the author unable to regain the feeling of zen she’d accessed just a few hours earlier at the In Goop Health wellness summit, described earlier…

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5 ways to refill your tank post-burnout

I don’t know about you, but I’m exhausted. Between work, the heat, familial obligations, and my summer social calendar, I feel burnout creeping in at least once a week lately. Over the past couple of years, I’ve tried to get better at slowing down, but it sometimes feels impossible to take a sizable

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5 things that made my life better this month

Five things that made my life better in July: 1. Going to spin class I watched the Amy Schumer flick I Feel Pretty a few weeks ago (um, OK, I watched it three times during my 48-hour rental period), and my main takeaway from this movie about self esteem that was somehow also a 90-minute ad…

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Plan a DIY creative retreat for this weekend

A few weekends ago, I cleared my schedule and holed up in my apartment  for a DIY creative retreat. The main goal for this weekend was to catch up on the writing schedule for my novel, which meant writing 21 pages over the duration of the weekend. There were other things I wanted to get…

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5 benefits of a growth mindset

I spent much of the past year reprogramming my brain, but until recently I didn’t have a term for the big change that has had a halo effect over all areas of my life. Recently, through the On Books podcast (also on iTunes), I discovered Carol Dweck’s excellent book Mindset, which gave me the phrase I was…

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Starting 2018 with a clean slate

[Full disclosure: I started this post three years ago and recently found it in my Medium drafts. I thought there was a decent idea here so I decided to finish it. Some of the specifics are… from December 2014.] In a former life, I was the board liaison for a major performing arts nonprofit. I…

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Finding a backup purpose for someone

I’m a recovering control freak. I’ve long been prone to getting ideas in my head about what “should” happen, and then ignoring all evidence to the contrary. I habitually refuse to let go of my vision for the role a person or thing should play in my life, which makes it hard to get over…

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On trying to manifest something you’re not ready for

I’ve written before about how I basically used my own off-brand version of The Secret to manifest my last two serious, long-term relationships. This post went live four months before I started the nearly-three-year relationship that ended in April. I’ve been trying to write the 2017 version of that post — what I’ve been calling “my most…

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